Beginning your inner work journey can involve a lot of shame about how you’ve lived thus far instead of radical acceptance that we’re all just doing our best, and being a human is f’n hard. Confessions of a former mean girl explores the messiness that comes with the human existence so we can give ourselves permission to be imperfect and actually love ourselves through the process.
Episodes
Sunday May 28, 2023
Sunday May 28, 2023
I recently had a couple of encounters that were a bit triggering and felt the need to shrink myself or “water down” my personality. These encounters inspired this episode where we will explore the idea of belonging and allowing yourself to live 100% fully expressed.
In Episode 22, I openly share my experiences with self-expression to normalize these conversations, hopefully providing some food for thought as you navigate your own journey. I dive into navigating anxiety and finding feelings of safety while accessing our gifts and making our work accessible to more people without feeling like we have to water ourselves down. I share my personal experience with a cacao ceremony and some tools that can help you navigate through exploring the tension between belonging and self-expression. Lastly, I want to emphasize the importance of inner child work and nurturing our relationships with our younger selves, especially when we find ourselves repeating old patterns.
How do you live your life fully expressed? What are the things you do to make a difference in those moments of tension or feeling watered down? Share it with me on the DMs or leave this episode a review!
“There is some part of us that believes that our whole self is not welcome, is not invited, and in fact, is not enough.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 Shrinking away, belonging, and self-expression.
❤️🔥 Cultivating unshakeable certainty of who you are.
❤️🔥 Easing the tensions between your invisible self and your fullest expression.
“I had to actually go back into those places and take those parts back and just love them. Love the girl who made those decisions and understand how she ended up there.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 22:
❤️🔥 (00:31) The triggers that inspired this episode about belonging and self-expression.
❤️🔥 (04:01) Normalizing these conversations about self-expression.
❤️🔥 (07:11) My sisterhood wound and how I deal with it when it comes up.
❤️🔥 (08:40) The concept of cultivating unshakeable certainty in who you are.
❤️🔥 (13:42) Feeling unsafe and how to live fully expressed.
❤️🔥 (17:20) My grounding prayer.
❤️🔥 (17:50) How reconnecting with your inner child can help you find belonging.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 Come join us in the Sacred Soul Sisterhood - The Virtual Community Membership - Listeners get an extension on Founding Member Pricing until June 30th, 2023. $77/month or $777/year.
❤️🔥 Reconnect and heal with your inner child through the Inner Child Exploration Series - 50% off using promo code: INNERCHILDEXP50
❤️🔥 If you have an interest in Mary Magdalene, I highly recommend Mary Magdalene Revealed by Meggan Watterson - also her Divine Feminine Oracle which supported the message in this episode.
“It doesn't matter if you should “be over it by now.” It's time to just exercise deep self-compassion because you are 100% worth that love.”
Sunday Apr 16, 2023
Sunday Apr 16, 2023
“What is YOUR true archetype?” While discussing my new quiz, my business coach dropped this bomb on me, and to be honest… it punched me in the gut. It had me thinking about the roles I play in the world and how it contrasts with the truth of who so truly am.
In this episode, I want to share how I recognized, understood, and embraced my true archetype. This journey of finding my true way of being helped me create better and more authentic connections and a life I deeply love. I want to share questions to help you understand your archetype and step into that role. I will also share how we, as women, can break free from the set rules and roles that separate us from our authentic selves.
When you are on your journey of finding your authentic self, having a community that supports you is a huge help! You won't want to miss out on the incredible opportunity to join the Sacred Soul Sisterhood Open House on May 19th. Get ready for a day filled with self-discovery and genuine connections within our new virtual community, where your fullest expression is seen and celebrated. This is the perfect chance to participate in a variety of guided group experiences, receive pop-up intuitive readings, and enter exciting giveaways throughout the day. Don't hesitate, mark your calendar for the 9am Pacific start time and come join the fun!
RSVP here: https://myers-studio.ck.page/49ebbb4cf6
“The thing that I knew was some people wanna blend in because they just wanna be part of the experience without having to be the center. But for me, I always felt sad when I wasn't noticed.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥My personal quest for belonging
❤️🔥Recognize and understand your true archetype
❤️🔥Understanding your archetype to create an authentic connection
“We've all been passing down the same bullshit story from generation to generation, and now we're sitting here wondering why we aren't satisfied.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 21:
❤️🔥(00:30) The conversation that kicked me in the gut and inspired me to share this episode.
❤️🔥(03:31) The Nine Archetypes in my quiz (link below!) and what I realized about my true archetype.
❤️🔥(05:24) How I started to recognize that I find joy in being recognized and seen.
❤️🔥(08:54) How do you step into your real authentic self and understand your archetype?
❤️🔥 (10:29) How do we, as women, break free from the rules of happiness and life written and passed down from generations?
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥Get to know your true archetype through my Community Quiz https://seryna.ca/community-quiz/
❤️🔥 Do you want to join a community where your unique identity is not only acknowledged but also celebrated with open arms? Then come and join us in our Sacred Soul Sisterhood! https://seryna.ca/sisterhood/
“We are then in this place where we get to create something new, something powerful, something better, something more aligned, and that changes everything because then you get to feel peace and joy and gratitude and happiness in liberation with everything else that you already have.”
Sunday Mar 26, 2023
Sunday Mar 26, 2023
Hey, lovelies! I am so excited to share this episode with you!
My wife and I are celebrating our 10 years of marriage, and I thought this was the best time to answer questions about our marriage, her transition, and how we navigated through it. In this episode, I am also joined by my wife, Rhea, to share our story and answer some of the questions you all submitted, and go into a bit more.
Do you have other questions you would like for us to answer or want to hear more about our story? Head over to The Former Mean Girl’s Instagram, and we’ll do our best to get them answered for you.
“When I would look at those pictures, particularly after her transition, I had this feeling of, like, neither of those people exist anymore.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 Our love story before and after Rhea’s transition.
❤️🔥 Answering the questions from my listeners.
“I think that the more we normalize these conversations, the more safety trans people can have when they're just navigating the world, being their fucking selves, because we should all be awarded that right, frankly.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 20:
❤️🔥 (00:34) Rhea and I talk about our relationship and why we want to share this episode.
❤️🔥 (05:52) What were the kindest or most supportive comments that we received?
❤️🔥 (10:04) What happened to all the old photos and all the old mementos and the stuff from pre-transition?
❤️🔥 (20:15) Rhea and I share our thoughts for others who find themselves in the same place.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 Make sure you check out and connect with me on The Former Mean Girl Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/formermeangirlpod
❤️🔥The Night Sky: https://www.thenightsky.com/
“Oftentimes couples will end up in that place where they go into autopilot, and they do get complacent. And it isn't until something extreme happens where it usually will end the relationship. And for me, it was an opportunity for us to birth something new.”
Sunday Feb 19, 2023
Sunday Feb 19, 2023
Bloom where you are planted - it’s a powerful statement that feels so inspiring…. But is it?
In this episode, I am diving into the cliché and how my view about it has changed, especially with my relationships and my healing. I share stories about some personal endings and the healing that occurred in the space after. I also share some things you can do to help you create better relationships, make changes, heal, and reclaim your voice without needing to stay stuck in unsupportive environments where you can’t bloom because the soil sucks.
And if this episode resonates with you, make sure to hop over to my Instagram and send me a DM. I would love to hear your story!
“There's a lot of privilege in the idea of bloom where you're planted, but as I sat with this, thinking about change, thinking about women and the things that we wanna shift in our lives, I don't find that inspiring anymore.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 The myth of “bloom where you are planted”
❤️🔥 Lessons I learned from ending things and creating space to heal
❤️🔥 How the brain affects the way we create habits
❤️🔥 The importance of being a community
“We have to get ready to endure some discomfort. We need to have a dedication to ourselves and a belief in the greater why of why we're making these changes in the first place.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 19:
❤️🔥 (00:30) The story that inspired me to share this episode.
❤️🔥 (05:17) How ending things and creating space for healing helped me.
❤️🔥 (07:36) How the brain affects the way we create habits or set resolutions.
❤️🔥 (09:43) How does space help me create a new and better reality?
❤️🔥 (11:19) How can you make big changes with your spouse?
❤️🔥 (13:59) How can a community help you heal and reclaim your voice?
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 If you are someone who is looking to make changes and you want to be part of a community, join the waitlist and make sure you get in early to my Sacred Soul Sisterhood community. https://seryna.ca/sisterhood/
“We also have to recognize that the shifts that we are going to make are going to be disruptive for the people around us.”
Sunday Jan 29, 2023
Sunday Jan 29, 2023
Have you ever felt like you’ve been on a journey, and you thought you had healed, and the next thing you know, you are repeating the lessons?
This happened to me this week, and oh boy, was it a week! Freya, my beautiful cat, had a medical emergency that sent me into a traumatic experience that I thought I’d healed back in 2011. The lessons I learned this week helped me trust in myself, my guides, and the support from people around me. It also helped me discover what hope truly is, and it is such a powerful lesson.
Join me in this episode and let me know when the last time you fell into a healing spiral was. I would love to know and support you, too!
“When the lesson is deeply rooted, our tendency to avoid or just kind of store it, put it away, ignore those negative, hard, challenging feelings, those lessons are going to continue to come back for us.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 What a Healing Spiral is
❤️🔥 The lessons learned this week
❤️🔥 How this experience was influenced by my word for 2023
“I could not allow myself to hope. Hope felt so scary.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 18:
❤️🔥 (00:30) What is the healing spiral?
❤️🔥 (02:23) The story behind the crazy things that happened this week.
❤️🔥 (07:24) What I realized after a Reiki session.
❤️🔥 (11:15) My word of the year and how it ties with my lessons this week.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥Get my book Sacred Anger https://seryna.ca/sacredanger/
❤️🔥Join me in my exclusive sessions in Lilith Rising with special pricing until February 28th - $1111 for the VIP day and integration support, 3 spots only! https://seryna.ca/lilith/
❤️🔥 Do you need support and know more about healing? Feel free to DM me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/serynamyers/
“I recognize that I am not the only one who has some breakthroughs that need to happen.”
Sunday Jan 15, 2023
Sunday Jan 15, 2023
Hello and Happy New Year! I really missed you, and I’m glad we get to spend time together again.
I am BACK baby! And I’m excited to get back in here from my unexpected hiatus last year. I had a very interesting time when I took a few months off from life (including the podcast) and discovered a new era of me in the process. In this episode, I want to share how a cheeky New Year Instagram post got me thinking about the audacity of expressing my authentic self. I will talk about the reactions, the triggers, and the opportunities of learning more about myself from that single post.
“I wasn't really doing the work of recognizing all the times that I had these acts of self-betrayal.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 The reclamation I went through during my hiatus.
❤️🔥 What I realized from my New Year post.
❤️🔥 What it means to have the audacity of authentic expression.
“Our sexuality is one of the things that we will bury the fucking fastest because it is the thing that we have been judged for since puberty.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 17:
❤️🔥 (00:30) What happened during my hiatus from the show?
❤️🔥 (02:15) What you can expect in my new space: my red era.
❤️🔥 (05:45) The reactions I received from my cheeky photo for New Year.
❤️🔥 (09:23) What are the lessons and missed opportunities from the triggers from my post?
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 Join me in my 4-month container called The Satya Self: A nourishing space of sacred exploration and the reclamation of your Whole Self. https://seryna.ca/satya/
❤️🔥 My VIP day is called Lilith Rising: A Shadow Alchemy™ immersion to reclaim your power + potency and to restore your inner light. (Please note: I take a maximum of 2 of these per month.) https://seryna.ca/lilith/
❤️🔥 My group program Verity is coming in the spring! Join the waitlist to be notified when registration opens and to get first dibs on early bird bonuses. https://seryna.ca/verity-waitlist/
“We are now in a place where we know better. We are now in a place where we know that we can be whole and that we don't have to judge our past. We don't have to judge our desires.”
Sunday Oct 30, 2022
Sunday Oct 30, 2022
Have you ever been in a situation where you feel guilty for not being able to do more, and you get blamed or feel at fault for not changing the situation? Or you feel like it’s your birthright… or even your OBLIGATION to make everything okay?
If you are nodding your head, then I know this episode will resonate with you. There are so many things that are beyond our control, and taking responsibility for more than the things that are yours to carry is not healthy for you and the people you want to serve. In this episode, I will share the feelings of over-responsibility and how it has affected my personal life and my business. I talk about how over-responsibility can show up in your life and my invitation for you if you feel like you are in this situation.
You need to break free from over-responsibility and live your best life. And it can start now.
“Over-responsibility is when you start to believe that the things that are happening to the people around you or your family are somehow your fault or that you have to be the one who needs to do the things to change the situation.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 What is over-responsibility
❤️🔥 How does over-responsibility affect your life and business
❤️🔥 How do you deal with over-responsibility
“This fear that over-responsibility causes that kind of keep us away from being able to show up on our purpose, we also oftentimes will start to lose our identity.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 16:
❤️🔥 (01:21) What is over-responsibility?
❤️🔥 (02:14) How is control part of over-responsibility?
❤️🔥 (04:45) My realization about over-responsibility from my experiences for the last four to five months.
❤️🔥 (08:34) How my business was affected by over-responsibility.
❤️🔥 (12:02) How over-responsibility inspired me to create my program “Unbound”.
❤️🔥 (13:03) My invitation for you and some questions you can ask when you feel more responsible than you should be.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 Did this episode rung true for you? Send me your thoughts on Instagram! @serynamyers @formermeangirlpod
❤️🔥 If you find yourself in a place of stuckness, join me in my beautiful 90-minute deep-dive program, Unbound: https://seryna.ca/unbound
“You are meant to be liberated. You are meant to be free. You are meant to be the fullest expression of yourself.”
Sunday Oct 16, 2022
Sunday Oct 16, 2022
Have you ever felt like you are in a crossroads and just waiting for something to happen, like you are in a limbo? How do you move through this stage in your life with grace?
In this episode, I share a personal experience of feeling in limbo and the lessons I discovered along the way. This is inspired by the things that happened to me for the past few weeks, including my encounter with my original animal guide and discovering my new animal teacher. I will share what liminal space is and the lessons it can offer you if you simply listen and ask mindful questions.
If you feel like this is where you are right now, I invite you to listen to the episode and rediscover the beauty of feeling in limbo with me.
“I always think of liminal space as this limbo, this open space where you weren't the person that you were before, and yet you don't actually know what you're stepping into or what you're becoming.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 What is the liminal space?
❤️🔥 Lessons learned from feeling in limbo.
❤️🔥 Mindful questions when feeling in limbo.
“I end up experiencing the grief and the pain, and the hardship and the loss, but without fully allowing myself to blossom in the new way of being, and that's because of my discomfort with the liminal.”
Here are some of the highlights of episode 15:
❤️🔥 (01:51) What is the liminal space?
❤️🔥 (03:02) The lesson I learned from discovering new animal guide.
❤️🔥 (07:07) The big message of being in limbo.
❤️🔥 (09:53) What you really need to allow yourself to experience from the liminal space.
❤️🔥 (11:17) Mindful questions to ask yourself when feeling in limbo.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 Did this episode rung true for you? Send me your thoughts on Instagram! @serynamyers
❤️🔥 If you find yourself in a place of stuckness, join me in my beautiful 90-minute deep-dive program, Unbound: https://seryna.ca/unbound
“Try spending that time with yourself and with the quiet. You would be surprised at the things that get revealed to you just by making the space to listen.”
Sunday Sep 18, 2022
Sunday Sep 18, 2022
Do you always try to please everyone in your life? Do you find yourself doing this to avoid being perceived as a villain by the people around you?
You may have tried to please someone (or everyone) at some point in your life. And it may hurt you to know that you still end up as the villain in their stories. But in this episode, I talk about how you cannot avoid being a villain and why it’s still okay. I share the consequences of being a people-pleaser, and how it affects not just you, but also the people around you.
So stop tip-toeing and walking around eggshells, and start living in your truest self.
It doesn’t matter how nice you are. You, my darling, are the villain in someone else’s story.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 Being the truest version of yourself.
❤️🔥 Accepting that you cannot please everyone.
❤️🔥 Realizing the importance of self-worth.
“You are responsible for yourself, and that responsibility extends to how you treat yourself and how you allow yourself to be treated.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 14:
❤️🔥(1:00) What makes you “the villain”?
❤️🔥(3:39) Why should you stick to being the true version of yourself?
❤️🔥(5:54) What are the consequences of being a people-pleaser or being too accommodating?
❤️🔥(9:36) Why shouldn’t you be afraid of being the villain?
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 NEXT ROUND: October 2022. My Group Coaching Program - Ignite the Lit Up You - https://programs.seryna.ca/lit-up
❤️🔥Use Coupon Code CONFESSIONS to receive 20% off.
“Your job is to do the work of being the truest version of yourself. That's what you came here to do. That's what life is all about.”
Sunday Sep 04, 2022
Sunday Sep 04, 2022
Are there particular stories in your past that stop you from creating a better life? How do you get over the stories that hold you back from becoming the best version of yourself?
Everyone experiences hard times, and we often create stories around them. In this episode, I talk about the process you can use to help you in your journey of rediscovery to learn new lessons from past experiences. I talk about the hurt and the parts of the stories that hold you back. I also share some insightful questions that you can use to step into the space of soul liberation.
Because beautiful: you deserve nothing less.
“Oftentimes, our feelings are really trapping, and they hold us, and they keep us stuck. And we create these stories, and they have a long-term impact.”
This episode explores:
❤️🔥 The three parts of the stories that hold you back
❤️🔥 The process of hurt you can experience
❤️🔥 How to get over the stories and trauma that hold you back
“If we had the tools to be able to separate those emotions where we could actually just look straight at the facts of what happened, it would become a lot easier.”
Here are some of the highlights of Episode 13:
❤️🔥 (00:30) I share something exciting and helpful for your journey or reclaiming yourself.
❤️🔥 (01:24) Some preface to set the intentions for this episode.
❤️🔥 (03:33) Lessons I learned in writing a book and how it relates to this episode.
❤️🔥 (04:17) Let's talk about hurt.
❤️🔥 (07:28) The three parts of the stories that hold you back.
❤️🔥 (12:45) Insightful questions you can use to recognize and heal the hurt behind the stories.
As promised, here are the links you need to know:
❤️🔥 NEXT ROUND: October 2022. My Group Coaching Program - Ignite the Lit Up You - https://programs.seryna.ca/lit-up
❤️🔥Use Coupon Code CONFESSIONS to receive 20% off.